I am marrying my HS sweetheart next month, we reconnected 7 years ago. He is 40, I am 38 and I have a 14 year old and a 12 year old and this is my 2nd marriage, his first-he has no children. I am STRUGGLING with whether or not to try to have a baby with him. He is neutral, is totally fine with not having any of his own but I know he will be in if I want to have another. I struggle with obvious reasons: our age, pregnancy complications, loss of freedom, having older kids that have me crazy busy etc.. Part of me feels like I really want to enjoy my freedom since I basically spent my 20s raising my kids, and my career is really taking off. On the other hand I have moments where I want one so bad and want one with him. Then I'll quickly revert back to not wanting one when I see a screaming child, or am doing nothing but running my kids all over the place and couldn't imagine dragging a baby with me.
I guess I'm looking for any input from anyone who's had kids in their 2nd marriage at an "older" age with a large age gap from other kids. Or vice versa.....those that remarried and DIDN'T have anymore-regret or no?
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