Hi everyone,
FH and I are STRONGLY considering canceling our current arrangements - we went the traditional, bigger wedding route - and instead opting for a small ceremony up in VT (lots of sentimental significance). The only problem is.... we've already put deposits on the venue and the DJ, and paid the photographer in full. My dress has been purchased and is ready for me. It's a lot of money to throw down the drain and we will have wasted others' time that they could've used for other couples. Save the dates haven't been sent out yet, so at least there's that!
FH is worried that I'd regret not having this big shindig, but it's been months of these doubts and whenever I think about this big event it just doesn't feel right. But when I think about just saying f it, let's go do our small ceremony somewhere meaningful to us and do something for friends and family when we return... that feels right. I feel like I kind of dove into these decisions very early on in our engagement without thinking about what we actually wanted.
I don't even think I know what I want anymore. All I know is that I want to marry my fiance. What would you do?