Will this upset my Guests? (covid-19 postponement)

I think your guests will be understanding as long as you're open and honest with them.

There is a global crisis going on right now so, I don't think anyone will be upset at you. If anything they should understand the decisions that your make. I say do it. I'd rather have a small ceremony now and big one next year.

I think you should do whatever you want. It would be silly for a guest to be upset about it. We sent out an email about our wedding being postponed, but also said that we’d get legally married on our original date if possible. There will still be a ceremony on our new date so no one is missing out on anything.

I'm sure some people might be a little upset, but I'm also sure that most would be understanding of your choice.

We are considering doing the same thing if we end up having postpone as well. Not planning to announce it though, unless someone asks. We've both already let our parents and a few friends who've asked know our intention to do this.

This is exactly what we are thinking if this goes on until August (8/1/20 date as of now). We will check in with our Catholic priest closer to, but we also want to have a Catholic wedding. What exactly is your priest planning to do, will it be in the church?

This is exactly what we plan to do if we cant go ahead as planned for August 8th. I think we would alter the ceremony a bit next year to make it more lighthearted since we will have already been married (no ring exchange, couple of officiant jokes about how we are already married, maybe even walk down the aisle together). I would feel a bit off to do the whole thing exactly over like the first time. But thats not because i care what other people think. Its more just that it would feel like a bit of a performance for everyone else

Also, people who have destination weddings are usually legally married beforehand anyways. No one complains about that!

In non-pandemic life, I feel like most guests honestly wouldn't care if they were there for the actual wedding ceremony or not. In now-pandemic life and hopefully post-pandemic life one year from now, I think they'll care even less. Guests who are upset that you didn't wait another full year to marry the man of your dreams just so they could see the dang thing in person aren't worth worrying about.

View Quoted Comment Our pastor is basically going to do a ceremony outside of mass and keep it pretty minimal. Still getting married in the church just stripped down and basic

This is a pandemic -- not normal circumstances. People will absolutely understand and I don't think anyone will be offended!

That is almost exactly what we are planning to do! Backyard wedding with just our parents and his brother who is local (my brother lives in another state and even he won't come). We still plan to have a Reception & even "bach" parties whenever things go back to normal so we can celebrate with our loved ones properly eventually We've told a handful of people and the reasoning (that we just want to start our lives and not let outside circumstances dictate when we begin our marriage) and they've been SUPER supportive. Couple things we're doing though to try and prevent any confusion/hurt feelings:

- Livestreaming the ceremony
- Looking into how we can have a digital guestbook. Asking guests to dress up (optionally) and post photos while they stream. Asking for wedding advice, tips for newlyweds etc in a forum of some sort (TBC) just so people feel involved in some way
- Still creating a wedding website with the livestream link, the Q&A as to WHY we are doing this, and info on how they can be involved so it feels real
- We won't be asking for any gifts or anything of course but if family members ask we are donating anything people insist on giving to support frontline efforts and essential workers

Best of luck with your plans!!

I completely understand how you feel but I postponed mine and most people were happy about it because they were afraid of traveling and being in large groups and some people who couldn't attend initially are able to attend now. My original date was May 30th which was changed to October 24th. I'm just praying I don't have to move it again. All my favors say May 30th along with my card box and keepsakes which is upsetting but I'm positive your guests will be more than understanding especially those traveling.

This is a pandmic if your guest which should be family/friends can't understand that then maybe they shouldn't be invited in the first place. Yes everyone looks forward to seeing the ceremony and hear the exchanging of the vows which by the way you can repeat next year like a real wedding just saying would you re-commit but why should you guys wait another year. Please go get married and not worry about what other people think it's your day and be blessed that you and Fh are healthy and celebrate your Love together.