Will you be calling your in-laws "mom" and "dad"?

I would never refer to anyone other than my own parents as mom or dad. I refer to my FMIL by her first name. If she asked me to refer to her as Ms., I would.

I think it’s okay to ask what she would prefer you call her!

I currently call my FILs by their first names but would gladly call them mom and dad if they asked me to (which I secretly hope they do!). I do also think that being willing to call in-laws mom and dad is a personal decision and if that’s not something you’re comfortable with no harm in saying that.

I call them by their first names, always have & always will. If I'm talking to other people I'll call them "my father in law" or whatever but just their names to them.

Well I've known my FIL's for many years now and I have never referred to them as mom or dad. However, shortly after we got engaged, they said I can call them mom and dad. I'm not going to lie it was weird and still is, but the more I say it the more I'm getting used to it lol. It's definitely not for everyone though.

I’m African American and I agree that cultural traditions differ dramatically throughout each culture and ethnicity. From the beginning, I never felt comfortable calling them by their first name whether I added a Mr. Or Mrs. In front because I didn’t feel that was our relationship. I always called them mom and dad but that too still feel uncomfortable because we weren’t there yet either. However, it made more sense for me. Up until recent, (we’ve been together five years), I always felt more uncomfortable calling FFIL “dad” because he always seemed very stoic and like I was just his sons “little girlfriend” but that’s also because we never took the time to get to know each other. Now, I call him dad comfortably and look forward to our random conversations.

I say this to say that your comfort level is very important especially, given the context of your relationship. I would absolutely ask. Maybe take her on a lunch date and have some DIL, MIL getting to know each more intimately conversation. Squeeze it in there.

I don’t have the super greatest relationship with my FMIL but we do try as best possible so, try. I think it has 40% to do with her, 40% to do with me and 10% to do with my FH and the boundaries he creates between and for us.

This post made me laugh in a good way I mostly refer to my FMIL by her first name, but sometimes I call her mom. Especially if she's not paying attention and I need to get her attention!!

My mom gives me such flack for this. She's like how can you not address them as mom and dad?! I said because I'm not comfortable YET. That doesn't mean I won't ever but I don't really know them in that way yet aha. Now I do and am comfortable but in the beginning I wasn't.

I call both FH's parents by Ms. or Mr., but that's also because I've known them since I was 15 lol. Now that we're adults, I'm sure I could call them by just their first names but we'll see. I never know about FMIL because we actually work together so I call her by her first name all the time, just not around her lol. My dad did ask FH to stop calling him "Mr. my maiden name" and instead by his first name since they've developed a friendship so I thought that was sweet

I've come to realize that outside of work I hardly address anybody by their names. I tend to just start talking lol
I'm not around the ILs much because they live in NJ and we live in IL. But I can call them Mom and Dad in Ukrainian and it helps distinguish who I'm talking about. I definitely think of them as another set of parents so I don't mind it, but I'm still a little awkward about it Haha

Nope. I will always call them by their first names when needed. I personally don’t understand why I would call my in-laws “mom” or “dad”. I have my own mom and dad who have that title so they get that title, not my in-laws. This works the other way too (my parents aren’t his mom and dad so they don’t get that title either).

Upon first meeting them, I was told to call them Tammy and Barry so that's what I have continued to do! I am sure they'd respond if I called them Mom or Dad, but it's odd to me to call them that since I have my own Mom and Dad already.

I would definitely ask her what she prefers, I am sure she will tell you!

This is something I’ve been thinking about too. I’ve always called my FMIL and FFIL by their first names but my FH calls my mom “Mom.” My FILs live across the country so it isn’t as noticeable, but it is something I can’t decide!

View Quoted Comment Lol. It would be easy for me maybe because they don’t call their moms “mom” but “Maa” where it sounds like “Matt” in their culture. So It doesn’t even feel like mom to me haha. Now the dad on the other hand, is the same way I call my father so I can’t escape that if he says to call him it

OMG relatable! I've never known what to call my fmil or ffil, so I too have not called them anything ahahaha. To answer your question, no I won't call them "mom" or "dad." Maybe just by their first names? Perhaps I'll stick to not really calling them anything? LOL

I’ve never referred to them as anything. They never told me what they’re comfortable with. But I am absolutely sure I will NEVER refer to them as Mom and Dad.

I call my future inlaws by their first name or by "Glammy" and "Fafa" which is what my children call them. But I feel like the title of mom and dad is special to my parents..but if its something you're comfortable go for it!

I'm calling mine by their first names. I have a mom and dad, I call my stepmom by her first name too. I think it's all relative though, if you AND them are comfortable with it, it would be fine.

FHs parents are divorced, but his mom lives in a different state, so we don’t see her very often but I am still closer with her than his dad and step mom. I call her mom and address them by their first names. FH calls my mom misses C and I don’t think that’ll change but he calls my dad by his nickname. I think it really depends on how comfortable you are and the relationship you guys have.

The moment I was introduced to them they told me to call them Mom and Dad. I call his stepdad by his name though.

I call them by their first name. I think they’d like for me to call them mom and dad, but I can’t.
I call his grandparents grandma and grandpa because when I asked what her name was she told me grandma. But, that’s weird to me too.