Words of encouragement

Though disappointing, I think you should let your personal feeings go. Just because they don't go to your bridal shower, doesn't necessarily mean you aren't important to them. With COVID anxiety, and a tremendous amount of weddings people have to invest time and money this year, persons are going to decline an optional shower. Don't get into Why they declined, it could be embarrassing for them and it's really not your business. You don't want your friendships to be a competition of who did what for whom anyway.

I’m so sorry and I totally get it. The best advice I can provide is to make sure the covid precautions you are taking are well known, which (for our wedding) helped our attendance. I even called guests to let them know if they wanted to wear a mask we were totally ok with that. I had a PPE table at the entrance of our ceremony with individual hand sanitizers and masks, seated guests by household, plated meals, etc. In my experience, guests came because they understood directly from the bride (me) I wasn’t insulted at all by masks and made our wedding as safe as possible. Hope this helps ❤️❤️❤️

View Quoted Comment I hear you, I think it’s just sad. At some point it has to give. The ppl declining have been going to concerts & always in crowds, partying. so it’s not a covid issue & they told me they were coming. Like I said im a very understanding person. I get when someone can’t make an event, but I do find it very disappointing & somewhat disrespectful when someone says they’re coming time & time again & then last minute decline over a football game & so forth. One persons reason was because she had another wedding to attend to, so of course i 100 percent understand that. A few others are pregnant so yeah np, no hard feelings! Im speaking for those who told me multiple times they were coming & declined last minute. Wrong is wrong. And nothings about competing friendships, there is a such thing as being used because you’re so caring & giving. I needed words of encouragement, I’m not one to get upset about people not making it, but telling me multiple times you’re coming & I spent the time & money just for you to not show up is rude. The one who decline over a football game didn’t even tell me, they messaged my mother to give her the reason. Everyone should be an adult… it’s called rsvp for a reason, am I wrong???

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! The bridal shower is kept small. Everyone attending either doesn’t believe in mask (sadly), they go to crowded concerts, I only have one person attending whose cautious about covid & she will be wearing a mask. The ppl declining have told me they were coming multiple times & are backing out due to a game they decided they wanted to go to instead or because they just rather go to the wedding instead. This person didn’t even give me the reason they texted my mom the reason instead to pretty much say they’re choosing a last minute game after saying they were coming to my shower 😭. The few who can’t make it gave me a reason and I’m 100 percent thankful they did because it gave me a heads up. But, some just don’t want to show because they don’t feel like it & it hurts because I’m always the one to say yes to everyones request 😣. I’m a nurse so I’m huge on protecting everyone’s well being during covid, I just wish people wouldn’t say they’re coming & wouldn’t miss it for the world then say no last minute over something planned after the fact. But, I’m okay now I learned that the ones who really care will give you a heads up if they felt it was really important.