Worst marriage trashing stories.

I don't remember the context, but my mom made the comment "I thought your dad and I would be married forever too". Jeez mom.

Another was a friend of my mom(who I had not met previously) came to a family event. She was a bitter divorcee and had a few drinks in the hot sun. This was a week after I'd gotten engaged and the first time I'd seen my extended family since. Another cousin was also engaged and their wedding was getting close, so we were talking wedding talk, all very excited and flashing our rings. Well my mom's friend turns to this cousins sister, and loudly enough for everyone to hear, she says "they're making the worst mistake of their life"

This woman later went on to insult my lifestyle and my religion (again, this is the first time I've ever met her!) And then invited herself to my wedding.

Some people have a whole lot of nerve!

One of H's cranky old man coworkers told him, "Don't do it, marriage changes women for the worst" right after we got engaged. I was standing right there as he tells H that I'll never have sex with him again, I'll nag him about everything, on and on.

You guys should speak up. There's no way I would sit somewhere for 20 minutes listening to someone rant about their poor life choices.

My grandmother said something along the lines of, oh so you gonna give marriage a shot. She didn't seem really thrilled lol. I was expecting congratulations.

Wow.

Two days before our wedding, housekeeping at the hotel where we got married was in my room that I was sharing with two of my BMs, changing the bed linens because they forgot to accommodate my feather allergy. She noticed my dress hanging in the window and complimented it, then asked which one of us was getting married. I identified myself. "Where are you getting married? Here? That's nice, they do a good job here. On Saturday? You still have two days to change your mind. What's his name? Oh, my niece was married to a ___. They just got divorced. It's not too late to get out."

FH and I are both 21 and will both be 22 when we get married. I acknowledge we are young, but we have talked about marriage from the start of or relationship. We will have had a long engagement and we talked about marriage, expectations, our faith, our life and family goals, and what we wanted in a spouse extensively before getting engaged.

The weekend after we got engaged we were at a family event, and my aunt went on a rant about how "people" shouldn't get married so young and "it's a mistake" to do so and it "probably won't work out" and how she "did it right" because she waited until she was older.

We have a big age difference (16.5 years), so we've gotten lots of comments about me being a gold-digger and/or him robbing the cradle.

Also when we had to change our venue, my mom said, "Well, it could be worse...the groom could not show up!" I had really nothing to say in that moment.

The worst I have had is women telling me that I'll understand their complaints about there husbands not doing anything around the house or helping with the kids once I'm married. No I really won't we have a partnership, your arrangement is not how men magically default after marriage...

I was in an uber, having just been for a dress fitting, and happily telling driver how excited I was... and then he proceeded to spend the whole journey telling me what a mistake marriage was. And then I remembered why I hate making small talk with strangers.

Lol @ cat lady!

But for real, why do people feel the need to berate others just because their marriages didn't live up yo expectations?

No one has been particularly rude to my face, but something that really broke my heart was that my FH proposed on Christmas Day, and the day after, my grandparents came up from 8 hours away to visit for the holidays (all my siblings older, so they stay with our young cousins for Christmas then visit us after). They'd met FH plenty of times before, so it wasn't going to be a shock that we were engaged, but I was still trying to come up with a cute way to tell them. I ended up just showing them the glass ornament my mom got me that said "We're engaged!" and our names and the date of our engagement. My grandparents both looked at each other and said "Oh."

I'll never forget that disheartening moment, but my mom said they just aren't the type of people to show emotion. Shrug.

I had a coworker post an article on my Facebook about divorce rates being higher when the couple gets married in May and then proceed to comment that she got married in May and just finalized her divorce so it may show my future. I was so speechless that I couldn't respond. Just because she got married in May and then divorced doesn't mean I am

I realized you could very easily tell how people feel about their own relationships once I was telling people I got engaged. One guy at my work who used to work with my FH literally said "I feel sorry for FH" when I told him. Asshole. Another guy said "oh, he was afraid of losing you", um no, no chance of that. Most people were/are genuinely happy though.

When I first got engaged, my coworker asked about my wedding planning and preceded to say that he wished he hadn't spent so much on his wedding to his ex-wife because he could have bought himself a Bentley with the money and at least now he'd still have the car.

I wanted to say, "you're a middle aged partner who married his 22 year old secretary - literally everyone saw that coming." I didn't. But it took some willpower.

One of my husband's guests went up to my mom at our wedding and commented on what a beautiful wedding it was, then proceeded to say, "Sure hope it works out." My mother was disgusted. This guest had a stroke in the past, but having talked to him, I think he's all there, and just an assholes.

@Jessi, I agree it's definitely an insight into that person's life. Some people are so damaged from broken homes and unhealthy relationships that they project that onto everyone else.

My mom told me in one of our late night heart to hearts, that although FH and I are going to be our own little family now, if anything went wrong, I'll always have a home with her and my dad. I actually thought it was kind of sweet. In case FH turns out to be crazy or abusive or something like in the movies, I'll never be stuck in the marriage because I have no place to go or no one on my side

I don't have any marriage trashing stories, sounds like I've been lucky!

But in a post with a lot of marriage negativity stories, I wanted to add a sweet story. Last night, I was at a retirement party. His wife was there and they are now my #marriagegoals. They have been married 46 years and are still so clearly in love and in awe of each other. 46 years! So adorable. Proof that marriage IS worth it and even after being with someone for decades you can still be deliriously happy together!

FH cousin is getting married a month before us. When we went over to tell them about our engagement, the cousin said in front of his fiancé "Well now the sex will stop!" She gave him the dirtiest look and it was so awkward for me and FH!

@Pickles, my mother had a very similar reaction to my engagement. Definitely saps the excitement out of it!

I've also gotten a lot of "marriage changes everything". I've been with my FH for 16 years, we've lived together for years, did the long distance thing, been through hell and back. I can't see a license changing anything... now kids, is another story!

I think people just project their own issues on happy couples. You know what they say, misery loves company! C'est la vie