Worst marriage trashing stories.

Another negative story -

my MOH got married last March. Their best man got trashed the night before and told me that the couple would never last and he bet their other friends that they would be divorced within the year. I never said anything. My MOH already has issues with his friends (for obvious reasons) and I didn't want to make it any worse or spoil her wedding weekend. Karma doesn't forget though ... he and his wife just filed for divorce (so again.... i think it's just people projecting their failed marriages on others)

My FH's coworkers keep telling him about how miserable marriage is and it kinda pissed me off. I feel like it's just normal man talk but it still gets to me. They have no idea who I am.

My cousins father in law congratulated his son on his FIRST marriage. That's the worst one I've ever heard of.

I mean we get the "too young" thing sometimes, but only from strangers. Even before we were engaged people use to say I was a gold digger because FH is going to med school and I have an art degree. Little do they know that being book smart apparently takes up a lot of space in your brain because home boy has negative common sense/basic living skills - but I love him! It's also a little ironic since I will be supporting us while he's in school and I am going to school to be a medical tattoo artist, which makes pretty good money, but ¯\_(?)_/¯

Meanwhile, there are people who actually live in North Korea who are horribly oppressed but sure, let's compare marriage to that.

Not exactly trashing marriage... but recently FMIL commented to me that "If you're happy 20% of the time, that's a successful marriage."

I had no clue what to say back. I have known for a while that she and FFIL are more like roommates who annoy one another than husband and wife. But I'm hoping for better than 20% happy! I don't think I'm being unrealistic there.

Literally just had a really hot winded guy come in to my office. He commented that he orders his business cards from vista print, so I told him I ordered my wedding invitations from there. "Why the fuck did you get married??" I told him I wasn't married yet but would be in a few months. "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Oh you're pregnant aren't you?". What in the. actual. fuck.

Wow that's awful. I've had a couple encounters, but none that bad. My FBILs constantly rag on marriage (in front of me, when I'm not in the room, ect) despite two of them being on their 2nd marriages. They actually like me, they just think it is funny. My FFIL also makes similar comments. My mom has said twice that she "hopes it's a better marriage than hers!". She does not mean this in a supportive way, but a snarky way.

@MrsVoegas17 I would have slapped his jaws so fast omg!! Why buy the pig when you can get the sausage for free??!!!

Yeah, I got that from my dad and stepmom. We talked to them about 9 months before the proposal when he first told them he'd like to propose, and they essentially tried to talk me out of it. After I told them we were engaged, I talked to them each on the phone, and they once again tried to convince us to date longer, to live together first (which goes against our beliefs), etc. It's mostly because they're miserable in their own marriage (his third, her second) and projecting that (with the idea that they're trying to help us and protect me from making the same mistakes). It's great *heavy sarcasm*.

FH's coworker, who was going through a breakup, said "you shouldn't have proposed on her birthday- if anything goes wrong you can't get the ring back because it was a GIFT". ( ps- my e ring was my grandmothers- FH never owned it anyway, my mother gave it to him when he asked my parents for their blessing). Ugh.

@Chip: Hello date twin! I have a coworker who always tells me that I'm making a mistake & "you could have all of this momma." Then says he could never get married because he doesn't know one couple that's been married over 10 years and is happy. So annoying! Also, I've got an aunt that's going through a rough patch in her personal life and is always telling me, "I don't know why you're getting married. You should run! You'll mostly likely end up getting a divorce & being a single mom one day." I hate the negativity. I'm just glad to have a mom, sister and in-laws that support us.

@catlady5x: lmao!

In the early stages of a divorce, my client's soon to be ex-wife saw my engagement ring and looked at me and said, "You're a divorce attorney and you're getting married? That's the epitome of oxymoron." She proceeded to rant about the ills of marriage. I ignored her. She was upset that the court determined that the pre-nup she signed was valid and all terms ( the one she contested was no spousal support if she commits adultery) enforceable.

I had a friend tell me "I would never get married, but to each their own. Congratulations." I guess that's not too bad.

Not exactly the same thing, but I had a stranger tell me that I should quit my PhD if I ever wanted to get married because no man wants an over-educated woman.

ETA it was a woman in her 30s who told me that.

Every single person in my family (aside from my moms parents and their parents and my aunt) have been marriage at least twice. So while my family appears happy for me, they always make comments about marriage. It's annoying. And my stepdad keeps ranting about how we should have waited a year to have a backyard wedding at my moms after the new house gets built and I'm "insane" and "stupid" for not going that route (I didn't want a fucking backyard wedding at all so?)

I'm just so damn over it.

My FFIL likes to say to me "you still have time to change your mind" EVERY TIME we see him. It's become exhausting. I just smile and say I know what I'm getting in to. Them there's also a regular at the restaurant I work at that likes to tell me how terrible marriage is and that it was the worst thing that he ever did. He tries to follow up with "but I wish you the best" but I can always tell how half hearted it is. I mostly just feel sorry for him though.

Ahh people are awful. Nothing that bad here, but when we announced our engagement all of FH's family asked if I was pregnant. And my dad pulled me aside later to ask too.

No, to all of them. I know we hadn't been dating as long as any of FH's siblings, but really? You don't have to be pregnant to get married. Sometimes you marry the person you love -_-

Also had someone tell me they were so happy for me, they thought I was never going to get married, lol

I've been fortunate to not run into this with my FH. We've been together almost 8 years...it was expected that we would eventually get married.

I did, however, have an interesting comment from my aunt when bridal shower invites went out and people had access to my registry. She asked if there was anything else we wanted because she didn't like anything on my registry; said my friends can buy that stuff. I said I guess it was a good thing it wasn't her registry.... sorry, not sorry. I can't stand that woman.

Oh wow @Ks_catonlap. My FMIL says the same thing. She always jokes and says "you have time to run". She says it like she's joking, but it's still so awkward and confusing especially considering she's wanted to help so much with the wedding.

I hear it all the time. I don't think marriage is going to be rainbows and daisies. I think that's what people are trying to say. Marriage is a lot of work. Not everyone stays happy and in love for 80 years. In fact I only know 2 couples that made it past 20. I know I won't always like FH and he certainly won't like me. Marriage is about taking the good with the bad and working through it all together. I think a lot of people go in thinking they will feel that happy forever. Chances are you won't. I think all the warnings have helped me really think about the commitment and not just follow my heart.