Worst marriage trashing stories.

I'm engaged young (I'm 21). When someone at work found out I was engaged he said "Oh, some of my friends got married young too. They're all divorced now." I don't think he was trying to trash young marriages but it came off that way and I was like well okay then!

I haven't heard much bad about marriage, but every time I was small talking with coworkers/strangers before the wedding and they would find out I was about to get married they would just say stuff like "well don't have kids for a long time" "kids ruin your life" "enjoy the rest of your 20s, have kids in your 30s", "don't have kids because it will screw up your marriage". At least they aren't criticizing our marriage/relationship, but it bums me out and makes me sad for their kids

When I broke the news to an old family friend (who was tipsy at the time and has been engaged more than a couple times), she gasped when she saw the ring and said, "oooooh you should've married Ryan" (her son). Then pulls my hand over to her friend and shouts, "Look...it's her FIRST!!!" And they had a good laugh. I didn't take it personally, because it was hilarious the way it all came out.

@Kate, my FH's mom's first words were "Are you sure?" Hah!

In all fairness, my first word to him before he even pulled the box all the way out was, "Really?"

I was so shocked because he had hidden that he bought the ring and had made up this wild tale about the stone being loose and not feeling comfortable buying it. Apparently that was my very immediate, very impolite response. I of course said yes right after that :p He's been my best friend for years, how could I not?

@FutureMrsS I don't think anyone who says that is trashing young marriage. I think they're just giving a realistic view of how most young marriages end. Not everyone is willing to take that risk. It is a risk. Some people (like my parents) marry at 22 and stay together. Some people divorce 1 year later. The chance of things going wrong when you're young is way higher. In the end, it's your decision and you need to know yourself. Know how you're going to support yourself. Don't just expect it to be all rainbows and sparkles, and definitely do premarital counseling if you can. FH and I are young too. I'm 21, and he's 24. We know those aren't negative comments. They're just honest assessments based on what people have seen and based on true facts about how being young means you know yourselves way less than you think. Keep that in mind, but my advice to you would also be to not look to anyone else for validation of your decisions. At the same time, you need to be able to take criticism and advice. It's a fine line to walk.

I need to point my brother's girlfriend to this thread. She refuses to be around my family because my aunt asked them what happens if they break up when they announced they were moving in together. This would show her how many worse things people say! (Sorry, still bitter about her, ha).

The worst thing someone said to me was "Why? 50% of marriages end in divorce." I was like ok, thank you.

I've just been told by many family members, mainly my mom and grandpa, that there's no point in us getting married and it just ruins things anyway.

Our friend keeps telling us "marriage is hard, not what you think" etc...they have been married 2 years lol

Not everyone is happy in their marriage. It has no reflection on yours!

Some people are just always going to have complaints about everything. Nothing like this happened to us but jeez people are so rude now a days.

Oh, no...that was wrong of him. I've been married for 35 years, and yes, we've had our struggles. Guess who will be with me on my deathbed, or guess who will be with him on his? Yep, either of us. He told you a story you should ignore, and if his life with his wife was so horrible, he should have done the right thing -- decades ago. He should have let her go so that she could found real love. Real love, after decades of stewing, doesn't sound like that.

Ignore it. You take the vows knowing what you know, believing what you believe, and you never let someone else's horror story infringe on your future. If the worst happens, you handle it with dignity and privacy -- you don't assault young couples and visit your tragedy on them.