Worst wedding you've been to?

My Future BIL and SIL's by far. Luckily for them, it was the first wedding I'd ever been to so I didn't know the difference at the time. There was no DJ, just an ipod and random songs chosen if someone happened to be near it, but often no music playing at all. It was a dry wedding. Family served food that they made (and nearly didn't make it on time for the reception at that). FSIL still complains about her photographer. Cheap does not mean good. After going to a few more weddings, I realized that this was a good example of what not to do, AT ALL, for your wedding.

All of these stories are amazing. Definitely a common theme here! Don't ask people to pay for drinks, don't make the food yourself, and at any point during the planning if you say the words "we'll just do X, no one will mind" chances are, PEOPLE WILL MIND and remember it forever! Lol

Another great wedding I went to was one where a bridesmaid pulled her boyfriend out onto the dance floor at the reception, brought a chair with her!! and proceeded to give him a lap dance in front of everyone. She didn't strip, but it was raunchy. Father of the bride had to go literally break it up. Bride was furious.

@nikki that's awful. And disgusting. Who wants to get dressed up and then go use a freaking porta potty?! How rude.

There was one wedding where the couple had an 1 1/2 break between ceremony and cocktail hour, even though both were in the same location. They provided no food or beverage while guests sat in the venue lobby hungry and miserable. Kids were crying.

My sisters wedding 5 years ago i spent all morning doing everyones hair (I am a licensed cosmetologist). Her and my mom and dad has went out for breakfast before while i was starting my nieces and daughters hair. We didnt get any lunch. My mom paid for her/ my sister and my daughters makeup and i had to pay a friend to come do my hair after doing everyones for free. Wedding was at 4 and all we had for dinner was make your own sandwiches and pasta salad. Bride and groom kept taking off so a lot of people left early. I had to help clean up and never got a thank you. And then my mom complained because i didnt get them a wedding present.

My best friends

I love them to death but...

Their wedding was on NYE in the woods, it was raining and cold, and only one heater.

They had an ipod for music, but they only did a first dance and then the party was over. The food was good, but they self catered.The groom and groomsmen were in camouflage vests, and the bridesmaids had fantasy dresses.

On top of all that I was having a bad day already, and we got lost trying to find this campsite in the middle of the boonies.

It was my now-ex's friend's wedding. It was self catered, BBQ style, and there was meat in everything including the ziti and salad. I'm a vegetarian. I literally ate a baked potato for dinner. Also it was a cash bar, but I couldn't drink anyway bc I was always DD (ex never got his license) and I wouldn't drink after having just a potato for dinner anyway. Sucked a lot!

My two friends just got married a few months ago (I was in the wedding party) and while it was fun, there was a lot they did that put a bad taste in my mouth... Cash bar, dollar dance, asking for donations for their honeymoon (literally posting it on Facebook), they asked the BP to contribute food and drinks to cocktail hour (one girl who can barely makes ends meet as it is was asked to bring a meat and cheese platter for 80+ people. She told them they were out of their mind) and they had a friend make their cake/cupcakes and they were noooooot good =\ I love them to death and I consider them two of my best friends but gahhhh!!!

I've always hated the dollar dance. And I've seen it at weddings for young couples just starting out, AND established couples in their 30's and 40's who literally drive luxury vehicles and are still cool with charging people to dance with them. Also, maybe just me but always felt weirdly pimp like to me watching the bridal party stand there guarding the couple and taking peoples cash before letting anyone get close lol

Oh lord do I have stories lol.

First awful wedding I went to was a great reception but the planning was TERRIBLE! Close friends got married on the brides grandmas farm. The ceremony was at 2. The reception was at 6, an hours drive away. Their reception apparently had recently changed locations so the address and directions online were wrong. After the wedding tons of people hung around and watched them take pics because there was nothing else to do but wait for the reception, meanwhile most guests were from OOT so there was literally No where to go. Tons of guests were also late to the reception because of the address mixup, including the photographer and part of the wedding party. The rest of the evening was great and a good party but damn. Their scheduling was awful.

Second terrible wedding: the wedding itself was absolutely beautiful but they changed their location last minute and were not allowed alcohol at the site. That sucked. Then the DJ was absolutely terrible and played awful songs. No one danced except the bridal party. My FI was a groomsman and they had a giant head table so I sat alone with strangers to eat my food, also sucked being alone and not knowing anyone as these were all of his high school friends. Needless to say, the whole thing ended at like 7 and guests literally stayed to help clean up as the bride and groom changed to go to their honeymoon. I helped clean up a wedding I knew two people at...... awful.

I've only been to two weddings. The worst one I hope to ever go was at a park (which was fine) but everyone was still getting ready as showed up. They were getting ready in front of all the guests. The groom was flashing around his hand gun. The MOG wore white. The ceremony started an hour and a half late. The ceremony lasted like 10 minutes, which you couldn't hear the couples vows, and a guy on a scooter drove up realllyyy slowly behind the couple as they were saying them. Needless to say we left shortly after the ceremony.

The first wedding I ever went to, lol. The bride was the roommate of one of my really good friends, who by default was a BM, but I wasn’t close with her. The bride invited me by word of mouth to her shower two weeks before her shower but she wasn’t sure if I could come to the wedding because she “needed to see who dropped out.” I didn’t go. The week of the wedding she told me I could come to the wedding. My friend wanted me to because the only other person she knew was her bf. I had to bring my friend something that morning to the venue and the bride asked me to bring her Starbucks. When I got there, the bride asked, “did you bring a gift? Oh. I guess iced tea is my wedding gift.” There was no food during cocktail hour, the open bar turned into a cash bar almost immediately following dinner, speeches lasted 30-45 minutes, there was a painfully long choreographed dance, and then they played Disney songs only to singalong for at least a half hour before I left with a friend who was told he could stop by that morning.

I'll mention the worst wedding I've not been to. A friend from college planned her wedding for last October, and asked my FH to be her best man. We know she's not well off, and weren't expecting much, but we went ahead and planned flights, places to stay, etc.

A month before the wedding, FH finds out that our friend is planning a simple ceremony on the beach, but isn't even planning to go to a restaurant with the 5 guests afterwards. I thought she was being too cheap, but whatever.

One week before the wedding, the friend informs me that she has changed the wedding to the day before originally scheduled. FH will be there, but I was scheduled to be on an airplane at the day/time she changed it to.

Day of the wedding, FH texts the friend to see if, as the best man, he needs to show up early or anything. Only after he texts her, she tells him that she was feeling unwell earlier in the week and didn't get to pick up the marriage license. Hence, she cancelled the wedding.

She told FH that she got married later in the week (after we both went home), but for various reasons, we don't quite believe her.

She never apologized to me for anything, and I no longer consider her a friend.

Best friend's wedding. I love them a lot but it was really awful as a guest.

There was a two hour gap between ceremony and reception for pictures. Nothing to drink but water and only had candy/ice cream to eat. (This was a 2pm - 8pm event) There was no DJ or dancing. The reception was basically 4.5 hours of waiting around, listening to the same 5 instrumental songs playing in the background. They didn't start their cake cutting, tosses, first dance, etc until 7:00. They did them all in succession and then it was over. Also, never received a thank you card.

Sorry Richard, but i giggled at the garter toss.

@richard that's why I hate bouquet tosses. When I used to photograph weddings, I'd see girls literally bolting to the bathroom to hide when the DJ started rounding women up for the toss because so many DJ's are super aggressive about getting people out on the floor. I've seen them shout things like "Having a boyfriend doesn't make you exempt! No ring on the finger, you need to be out here!" How embarrassing for couples who have been together for years but are still being put on blast as SINGLE!!! in front of a crowd of people.

The worst wedding I have been too was my cousin's in 2015. My FH & I have been to roughly 20 weddings together in the 6 years we have been together. There were other minor things with others that "I wouldn't do", but nothing as mind boggling as my cousins wedding.

It was at a park, in late June. No rain plan, entirely outdoors. Guess what, it rained. POURED the entire time we were there, with a high of about 56 degrees. They had one single tent, 6 long tables and 150-175 guests. A large stage and a make shift aisle for the bride to walk down so they could be under the tent. No seats, no side walls on this single tent and about a 30 yard walk uncovered to the "house" (it was like a large shed) where there was only 1 single bathroom - exactly one toilet.

The ceremony was personal and heartfelt, so I appreciated that. Once the ceremony ended, nothing else happened. For cocktail hour, they threw a tub of hummus, a bag of tortillas and a veggie tray still unwrapped on one of the 6 tables. Never told anyone anything, and seriously that was it. It was "BYOB" and you "gave your alcohol to the bartender so they could serve it for you". Dinner was a BBQ buffet and actually for any Rochesterians - Dinosaur BBQ and was really good. If you didn't go into the house, you had no idea dinner was there. Or that there even was a dinner. Seriously this was about 2 hours after the ceremony ended. BUT there was not enough room in the "house" on the property for people to go in and eat because you had to stand and there were not any seats outside. On top of, who wants to now walk in the giant mud pit that is the lane from the tent to the door of the building, in a torrential down pour. NO ONE.

About 45 minutes go by after the "dinner" fiasco and we are still just sitting around, trying not to freeze and debating on leaving. No first dance, no cake cutting, no instructions or time line of any sort are going on. Next thing you know, my FH and I see the bride cutting the cake, but not with the groom (my cousin)!! She is putting a piece of cake into another man's mouth and he to her. I was absolutely astounded. The temperature had dropped to probably 45 and I was over it. I tried to hand my cousin his card (no where to put it) and he said "I don't care about the card, just give me the cash". And he said "I can't believe you guys are leaving so soon" DUDE ITS BEEN ALMOST 4 HOURS AND YOU STILL HAVE NOT DONE ANYTHING. ITS FREEZING AND THERE IS NO WHERE TO SIT.

Needless to say, never got a thank you card, never saw a first dance, my cousin did not cut his own cake and it was absolutely miserable. I also did not give "my alcohol to the bartender to be served" because I did not bring any. My brother did and kept it in a cooler next to him and it was the most ridiculous/entertaining thing I've ever seen because he wouldn't share. Crying emoji face times a million.

I still can't stop talking about this with my family. Unfortunately, they are currently going through an extremely messy divorce so it makes me think about how awful it was even more now.

Ok, yes, @stephannie you WIN girl! That's so bad it's almost unbelievable. I can't believe no one punched your cousin in the face honestly lol

Okay one I went to and one I was told about-

The one I went to was FH's uncle. His bride planned the wedding in 6 months because she so desperately wanted to make sure he didn't back out, then proceeded to call his mother and say "I think I'm making a huge mistake but I've made my bed so I'm going to lay in it". Day of the wedding, they're late to the ceremony because they're taking pictures. So we were left with THE WORST PAIR OF WEDDING SINGERS I have EVER had to listen to. We thought it was a joke. They sang for over an hour between waiting for the bride and groom and then through the ceremony. We thought it was over then, but they were also the band for the reception...a karaoke machine and two terrible singers for 3 hours.

They only sang Donnie Osmond and the Black Eyed Peas (I have no idea why) so needless to say not a single person danced...not even the bride and groom. They sat at their sweetheart table whispering to each other all night.

Finally comes time for a family photo, FH and I got engaged a few days earlier...they asked me not to be in the picture.

Food was gross, cold, soggy, and the room where the reception was had to have been 60 degrees so we were all freezing. Never got a thank you for the gift my FH and I gave.

This one I didn't go to but my friend told me about: during the ceremony a drunk man walked into the church in front of the videographer and photographer and interrupted the ceremony for a straight 10 minutes with profanity. After the ceremony they got to the venue who lost power 45 minutes in, ran out of food and had no ice for drinks because the power went out. They ordered pizzas and ended an hour and a half early.

Wow...that's a new one. BYOB for the bartender to serve it to you...how is that even a thing?

So if I'm understanding this a cash bar is a bad idea? What if your spending your savings just to have the wedding and feed everyone but can't afford to pay for everyone to indulge in booze?