Worst wedding you've been to?

I went to one this summer. I realize now that the bride and groom obviously didn't go near anything to do with wedding etiquette at any point.

First they were already married six months before the "wedding" because they didn't believe in premarital sex. We knew as friends, and their parents knew, but the rest of the family was in the dark.

Then...

-it was during the workday before a holiday weekend so we had to take off work for this fake ceremony

-My FH was a groomsman and had to drive an hour away to pick up supplies the day of the wedding

-He also had to buy his outfit which is fine, but also had to purchase specific socks and a watch. The watch wasn't even offered as a GM gift.

-It was self catered, though the food wasn't awful

-they actively advertised both their honeyfund and their honeymoon tip jar

-no assigned seating without extra chairs so it was nearly impossible to find a place for our group of four

- no one could hear the ceremony

-no dj, just an iPod

-no dj, so the FOG just stood on a table and screamed when we needed to pay attention to toasts and whatnot

- then we all got the honor of helping clean up

But I did sneak a flask in so all in all it wasn't too horrible

I flew from California to Ohio to attend my cousin's wedding. I was put to work making centerpieces and setting up decor for the reception. The actual event was lovely aside from her toddler ring bearer throwing a screaming tantrum during the ceremony and NOT being removed, but I'm still miffed about getting roped into decorating and never getting so much as a thank you.

Another cousin got married in the Bahamas, and when I couldn't afford the $4000 to attend the wedding I went looking at her registry and found that there wasn't a single item on it under $200. -_-

Oh hey, Kristin. You must be new here.

Haha thanks everyone. Let's just say we went straight to a bar and drank the freezing cold misery away.

@pandainlove - I believe it is just like any venue that allows the hosts to supply their own alcohol except they wanted their guests to supply the alcohol. For example, my reception venue allows us to supply our own but they supply the bartenders/insurance/glassware, mixers etc. So my FH and I will be "BYOB'ing" our booze, but will not be asking guests to bring it. STILL SO SALTY!

To sum up, they were being extremely rude and didn't want to front the bill for the booze AT ALL and just told guests to BYOB. Honestly, I am still not over the whole being told "bring it to the bartender and they'll serve it for you" - PRETTY MUCH A FANCY WAY OF SAYING GIVE ME THE ALCOHOL YOU PURCHASED SO IT CAN BE USED AT THE WEDDING I AM HOSTING.

Worst Wedding: anyone that doesn't serve alcohol or has a cash bar!

Thankfully the wedding I went to didn't do either, but almost had a cash bar until the bride's father stepped in and paid for it at the last minute because there was no way anyone was paying for booze. Word had gotten around that it was a possible cash bar, so everyone had flasks JIC.

This was after the couple had also put a honeyfund on their invites. This was the first wedding I've ever been to where no one gave cards, people gave actual physical gifts and the Bride was pissed.

The worst wedding I went to wasn't all that terrible compared to what I was reading. It was my cousins wedding. The ceremony was outside. The weather was fine, but there were these little black gnats that kept biting the guests. They left so many welts on me. The ceremony started 30 minutes late. They were using an iPod and Bluetooth speaker for their music and it didn't work at all.

The reception food was family style BBQ, but wasn't good.

Outdoor ceremony in February with a 20-minute sermon

Dry reception with no music

Mashed potato bar for a meal

Tried to get a group picture with the bride (who was a part of our friend group) and she seemed quite annoyed (it was the only interaction we had with her at her 50-person wedding)

Turns out they only had the space for three hours total, so we had to leave immediately after cake. No festivities at all.

Probably wouldn't look back at it and hate it this much if she had stayed friends with us, but she literally stopped responding to group and individual messages the day she got married.

The worst wedding I've ever been to is if I don't get dinner before 9 or 10 pm (happened a couple of times). They could have literally everything else (one did have open bar all night and non-stop dancing) ;however, I was pretty hangry by that point. As soon as dinner was served, everyone left the dance floor/bar to eat ASAP.

Ex-H's cousin. Highlights:

-Preacher talked about how the bride and groom didn't have sex during the ceremony

-Also at the ceremony, it was announced that the reception would be alcohol-free, and asked all guests not to drink between the ceremony and reception

-2 hour gap

-over an hour's worth of speeches before dinner was served, including 30 minutes for father of the bride alone

-all tables were on the dance floor, and were then cleared after dinner. There was no where to seat elderly guests during dancing, so we ended up leaving right after dinner (we had given ex-H's grandma a ride)

It's such a different feeling reading these about people being GUESTS at the worst wedding ever vs the worst wedding ever being their OWN.

When you're a guest, you can roll your eyes and laugh it off pretty easily, and it's a funny story to tell for the rest of your lives about the middle school friend you didn't talk to in 15 years who had no alcohol and invited 35 people and somehow you made the cut, no plus-one though.

When it's your own, it's like, "So I spent $1200 on flowers that showed up a week early to the wrong place and died so we used grass instead, my SIL's kid threw up on our $1000 cake, and everyone got food poisoning from the $2500 dinner because the caterer got drunk and cooked the chicken medium-rare."

I really don't think I've ever been to a good wedding. We went to 2 of our friends' last summer. The first was outside in July, ceremony lasted 5 minutes and they didn't have enough chairs for everyone. Reception was in an un air conditioned barn so everyone was dying of a heat stroke and it was BYOB. The second was outside in August so it was also super hot, they didn't have any food or drinks we left as soon as the ceremony was over which only lasted 5 minutes so it was fine.

We traveled to a good friends destination wedding. Had a plated dinner with the option of beef or chicken.

After dinner, while they were cutting the cake....the servers came around and brought everyone their bill for dinner!

So not only did we have to pay for our own meals, really didn't get much choice what to eat, but we had absolutely no idea!! The best man didn't have his wallet, we had to help him pay his bill!

These are so much worse than my own story. It was an otherwise wonderful and beautiful wedding, but almost FOUR HOURS of sitting there with nothing to do while the bride and groom took hundreds of pictures. No food at all, but plenty of booze so people were getting drunk fast. It was an early-ish wedding, and we had plans for 7:00. We certainly didn't think we'd be there that long (the reception was set to end when an hour after it actually started) so we left before dinner. My FH ran into the groom a couple of months later and the groom was still upset that his now-wife made them take so many pictures. Apparently, everybody but the BP and their immediate family had left for the same reason.s

My story is my friend David. David was a Marine and was about 23 when he decided it was "time" to get married so he proposed to his girlfriend of about 2 months (maybe), who was 21 I think. I am pretty sure it was so he could have someone at "home" while he was deployed, but never asked him.

We lived in the freaking Mojave desert surrounded by hills, so it was horrible!!!

First of all, the bride was about a size 12 or 14 (not cutting her down, I am that size too), and she wore David's sister's wedding dress which was a size 0, so the dress was pinned together in the back with HUGE safety pins and you could see it the entire time.

They decided to have the wedding outdoors at the ugliest bar you have EVER seen, in the middle of the freaking summer. If you have never been to the Mojave desert in summer, let me explain that it is HOT AND WINDY. It is as if you have opened your 325 degree oven and the heat blows out at you.

So, the entire time the bride is walking down the aisle, she is chomping on gum and talking to her dad. David is looking everywhere BUT at his bride. The damn wind is blowing so badly that it stole her veil off her head. You cannot hear a single word they said, and everyone was so miserable because we were ALL wearing black. Then they are trying to light the unity candles, but the wind is so bad that the little individual ones wont light. Finally the get them lit, then they manage to light the Unity candle, and it gets blown over and catches the tablecloth on fire for about a minute.

Then, everyone is released to the bar where there are maybe 2 or 3 veggie platters for a ton of people, with no real food and a cash bar only.

Needless to say, that marriage lasted only a few months because as soon as he deployed she started cheating on him.

I have attached a photo of the lovely venue, just because I am a hateful bish!

eta: spelling

It was my BIL's wedding this year.

First off, H was in the wedding, so we had high hopes. It was a DW in Key Largo, so we flew down and everything was okay so far. The rehearsal was a mess (I babysat the flower girls while they rehearsed), but the dinner was fun!

The day off, H goes to the venue, and they can't find the photographer at the hotel. So they are running around trying to find her (they finally did after like an hour), and they start to take photos on the beach when it starts to rain. So they take photos in the Bride and Groom's hotel suite. About an hour before the ceremony as we were getting ready to leave to the venue, it starts POURING. We arrive and ask the coordinator where the ceremony will take place since it's raining. She said outside. H's Grandmother was completely in shock especially since she can't walk very well and can't sit out in the rain. Luckily, the hotel room that the Bride and Groom had over looked the ceremony so they sat on the balcony and took photos. During family photos bride refused to have me in them (when I had been engaged to H for almost 2 years at this point). We then sat out in the rain had the ceremony, and then went up to the reception.

We then go to the reception, and sit down realized that we, the Groom's family has been sat at the farthest table from the head table while the Bride's family sat closest (as well as the Groom's Mom and Stepdad). They ran out of fish, and tried to give us chicken, and when they brought out another option, it was disgusting. We were ignored throughout the whole wedding day, because the bride was pissed the groom's dad wouldn't fork over a check to pay for the day. It was an interesting weekend to say the least.

Wow, @Heidi, she sounds like a real peach!! SMH

We traveled 8 hours for a wedding and there was no booze and no food besides sweets, iPod DJ, the bathroom was a mess because they got ready there (and left hairspray by a space heater) and the stalls were so high you couldn't squat without someone else seeing your vagina.... horrifying.

Most of the weddings I have been to have been pretty boring. I grew up in "Mormon-ville" Idaho (that's what we called it.) There most couples get married in the temple. Which is always kind of funny when they are drinking out in a field with you a month before, but can't tell because they need to be "temple-worthy". Then most receptions are in the church basketball court and even the ones that aren't there is no alcohol. I've only been to a couple weddings with food, not just a candy/dessert table and most of them don't have dancing. I have been to a couple of fun ones, mostly family that isn't Mormon. Mine will be awesome!

I was asked to help with a wedding I wasn't invited to by one of the MOHs (she's one of my closest friends). I helped because she was stressing out and apparently I'm too nice of a person. It will never happen again.

I made all decorations for the bridal shower and helped make the majority of the food as well.

I also did all research for flowers and decorations for the ceremony/reception. Made all 20 of the boutonnieres and helped put together the 8 bouquets, which all turned out amazing (yes I'm giving myself a huge pat on the back lol).

Got to the venue 5 hours before the ceremony started to set up decorations. Found out I was expected to steam the table cloths (20) and the runners (24) 3 hours before start time. The steamer I was given leaked if not used vertically which I could not do alone. The other I was given after I told them I couldn't use the other leaked when used. I finally got help when some friends showed up early. Got half the cloths and runners steamed before I just threw in the towel and said F it. Put together the centerpieces, laid out and taped down the aisle runner and set up the food tables and drink table.

The groom then came out with his groomsmen and tore up the aisle runner because it was a 'tripping hazard'...I taped that thing down so well it took all 10 of them to get it up. I was so angry I almost strangled the groom with the runner. None of them helped even though they were just sitting in their room talking. The entire 5 hours.

There was no alcohol, the beverages made available were just weird mixtures of juices and soda and were still full at the end of the night.

Sparkler exit. The bride and groom ran out when only 1/3 of the guests had theirs lit and jumped in their truck and drove off. So we were all stuck with these minute long sparklers that we had just lit (I was okay with it cause I like sparklers but most of the guests didn't know what to do). Then we were all expected to clean everything up and put all decor in two cars but only certain decor went in each car.

Took 3 months to get a thank you card for all I did for their wedding. But it only mentioned what I did for the bridal shower...

Oh and that close friend took credit for most of what I did. Our relationship is very strained now.

One of my friends had a horrible wedding and she sadly had a horrible time. The family is extremely conservative so they judged people dancing and made remarks. The Dad gave this horribly sexist and demeaning game show quiz to the couple that embarrassed them more than anything. It was a mess. It also was in the middle of nowhere Ohio featuring a cash bar that was closed during dinner. Oh and if you did get drinks, you were judged for that too. It was very uncomfortable overall.