Would you ever hire a professional bridesmaid?

Someone posted here once about wanting to rent groomsman (and he had a link to some sort of service) for his vow renewal and everyone was very confused what that would actually achieve.

I guess I can believe it's a thing, but I certainly wouldn't ever consider doing it and I would side-eye this hard if anyone I knew did it. For the record, I didn't have a bridal party, by choice. So clearly I am not the target market!

I think the fact that this is an actual thing shows just how shallow some brides have become 🤦🏼‍♀️
Zero chance I would EVER consider having a stranger stand with me on my wedding day.

Of course this is a thing lol.

Yeah I get you. I just can't imagine hiring a stranger when bridesmaids are normally close friends and family. Like I'm picking these girls because they mean a lot to me. A stranger, not so much.

View Quoted Comment I could see someone not shallow doing this too though. What if they truly have no friends or family to be by there side? Sure it doesn't mean the same but some people just want someone to be supporting them. Even if it's fake support

I would never in a million years do this. Why would you want random strangers there in such an important position who don’t give a crap about you? Not to mention the pictures you will be taking. I seriously doubt this is really a thing except with the entitled crowd who has been so cruel to their friends that they have no one else.

Though Mariah Carey did this with her flower girl entourage and was badmouthed for the concept for years.

Absolutely not! My wedding day is deeply personal and I want to celebrate with my closest loved ones, not some stranger I've never met.

I can't imagine ever hiring a bridesmaid personally.

But this sort of thing may be good for someone who doesn't have friends or family to stand by them. Maybe even for a bride who doesn't have any female friends. We are in a pandemic, if all your friends are abroad and can't get to you, you might want to have a bridesmaid there, even if she is payed to be there.

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Now that I think of it, this would be a pretty good for the bridezilla types that have annoyed their friends and family and forced them to quit the bridal party. Maybe if you're paying someone they'll put up with your drama.

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I wouldn’t even do it then. Have someone acting as your witness for the legalities and accept the reality of what is and be grateful for the family/friends who can attend.

I think this would be a good idea for those brides who are too hyper focused on having perfectly orchestrated matchy photos. It's better than being inconsiderate and treating friends and family terribly and like photo props just for the sake of getting "perfect" pictures.

View Quoted Comment Doesn’t that defeat the purpose then, if the support is fake? If you truly have no friends or family, wouldn’t it make you feel even more lonely knowing that you had to pay a stranger to stand next to you? IMO, that would just increase the feelings of emptiness. I suspect the people that utilize paid bridesmaid services
A. Don’t have friends, but want to appear as though they do

B. Have alienated their friends due to bridezilla behavior, and said friends no longer want to be their bridesmaids
C. Know they are bridezillas who care most about the aesthetic of their weddings for photos/social media, and choose to hire people they can boss around and use like props for their photos

View Quoted Comment I think it defeats the purpose but idk

Lonely people might do silly thing sometimes 🤷‍♀️

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I think it’s more about narcissism. Filling in the blanks because they have pissed off everyone else with unrealistic demands. Truly lonely people who are not mean and self centered tend to stick with what they already have.

I did read about this awhile ago!! Good for the girls actually making money off of it, but I would never hire someone!

So I’m going to be in the minority here, but I don’t see a problem with it. If you look at what they do, a lot of them are there to actually help the bride and almost act as personal assistant. (Which if you read some forums on here a lot of brides seem to expect that of their BM and then get pissed when their friends aren’t 100% about their wedding 24/7). They have seen all the crazy things that can happen and offer support. They’ll listen to you vent about all the stress, help you pick a dress, handle RSVPs, etc. By the end they might actually be a friend or at the very least a person that has helped you get to the alter.

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Month of coordinator duties essentially. But without the actual coordinator. Do what works for you.

I have heard of this! I would never do it, personally. I feel like only the most important people to you should be involved in your day. However, I would love to be a professional bridesmaid myself lol.

View Quoted Comment Who knows, it may be cheaper than a month of coordinator. Although, I would never think of venting to my wedding planner about any drama that comes up but you can with a hired bridesmaid.


As someone that moved around a lot and therefore doesn’t have many close friends (actually, all of my closest friends are guys), I can see the appeal in it. If I wanted a bachelorette party and those types of things, a hired bridesmaid would be the person I would have throw mine.

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That sounds like it would be REALLY expensive to hire someone to both plan AND attend a party for you. I know people can spend their money any way they like, but there have to be better things to splurge on! Not to mention, it would be like partying with your caterer, florist, or photographer -- just another vendor.