Would you go?

Personally we are most likely cutting our wedding in July to just parents/siblings, officiant, and photographer with setting up music ourselves before hand and having caterer deliver food, and our fam serve themselves buffet style and do a variety of drinks pre-made in pitchers. If we cut the wedding down we wouldn't do another celebration a year later with the original guest list, as we already did our celebrating (also at that point we are hoping to be expecting our first child)!

We have friends who keep having to postpone their weddings and if they got married without friends like we may have to, but do a reception a year later, I'm not going to lie... we would go, but we would think it was really odd. If having friends/big reception is important to you, than you should postpone the entire wedding. For us, all that matters for our marriage is the love between the two of us, and our immediate fam as witnesses. Needing to throw a ceremony a year later really makes it seem like your marriage is more about the attention than the two of you. Maybe throw a one year anniversary party instead, but I wouldn't call it your marriage reception a year later.

Some people will be hurt that they weren't there for everything, but it's how you may have to do things. With everything that is going on right now it's understandable that people have to veer from their original plans, it unfortunately happens. People need to understand with the circumstances you're doing your best to accommodate everyone but respecting the times we are in. Granted my wedding isn't until 2021, but we are doing it where the wedding is one weekend with about 30 people, and the reception will be a following weekend with over 200 people invited. We're going to play a video at the reception of the ceremony itself before we do entrances. Maybe you could do something like that so people still feel included.

What state are you in? The federal guidelines are no gatherings larger than 10. Our state (IL) will definitely still be enforcing that late into May if not June. You might not be able to invite them anyways. It’s not safe or responsible to invite everyone to a ceremony now. I’d just play up that angle and if people don’t understand, then they’re being ridiculous

I would. Considering all things, I think people would understand. We are facing the same thing at this point. With getting married when the courthouse reopens and having a reception next year when we originally were going to get married. We went to a reception only wedding. How can ppl be upset about not being invited if there was really a wedding for them to be invited to 🤷🏾‍♀️

I would go

Where I am in Ohio, you can't have more than 10 people at a wedding, so if I was invited to your reception next year, I would completely understand. Just let your guests know why!

You can always do another ceremony so that they can get the full experience. My cousin eloped and then had a church wedding the next year.

Yes, I would make every effort to go.

I would absolutely go!

One: I'm getting married in September, if this is all over with by then. If we can't have large groups, then I will have my 10 people and have a small ceremony and will be holding a reception next year. So, I will be in the same boat with, so I have an understanding of what you might be going through with this decision.

If they are truly your friends/close family, they should absolutely understand that this pandemic has been completely unlike anything we have seen in our lifetimes before and that you still want to get married, but don't want to postpone the entire thing.

I would still attend.

Here's my thought given the other comments that I've read. A celebration after isn't about the party being important. For people like me, with my parents even unable to attend my grand affair of 5 people - the party after is a chance for everyone to meet and to spend time together. It's not the party - but the love that matters and when you marry you are marrying their family too. And they are marrying yours. To me it puts the attention on those ideas of a combined family and it's great pictures too. I say go for it! And by then people should be ready to have a great time in another year - or we will have made peace with this as our new normal.

I say go for it! I am doing it too - and everyone is thrilled and they have said that they are coming! Have fun and do it your way!

Of course! Right now, COVID-19 is the best excuse to not invite people that you kind of like but kinda don't really care to be at your reception. Also with social distancing, you can choose to invite the most important people for the ceremony.

Maybe. If I was nearby the reception or was a close friend or family member and wasable to travel, I would.

I would attend the reception because I understand with the COVID-19 pandemic most states are limiting the number of people for gatherings this year. My FH doesn't want to do the ceremony this year and reception next year. He wants to wait and have everything together.

Assuming this is because of Covid, I think a lot of people are completely understanding.

Have you considered streaming it? I think that's a really nice extra mile considering what we're all going through.

Assuming next year is safe for mass gatherings- yes! My sister was supposed to get married in early June and this is what I encouraged her to do. Not the norm, but these are not normal times!

I would go. Maybe they can only have a small amount of people for the ceremony due to the virus and thats why they are having the reception next year and inviting everyone for that

Especially since the change is caused by the circumstances, yeah people will go for the chance to celebrate you.

I think this is an awesome idea, and I would ABSOLUTELY attend!

I think by next year everyone would want to go to something. I say do it and whoever shows up shows up if not that's on them.