Would you rather... cut the shower or the bach party?

Cutting both!! We r in our 40s and have lived together for 3yrs. We dont want or need a shower. Bach party...we arent partiers or drinkers and r introverts so we dont want the Bach parties either.

We cut the bach party. I don't need to parade around town drunk with a male genital straw in my mouth. So embarrassing.

We cut the bridal shower and engagement party, but we are both have bach parties! (I already had mine- it was AMAZING). Both FH and I’s Families are spread out all over so it felt really selfish to ask people to travel four times in one year to celebrate us. We would rather everyone show up for the wedding 💜

I would cut the shower. It’s just not necessary.

I'm not having a shower, so I would cut that.
Wouldn't cut the bach party- they don't all have to be stereotypical! It's a great opportunity for a bridal party where literally no one knows each other to bond before the wedding

I'd cut the shower since we are very likely not registering anywhere because we already live together. I probably won't have a shower anyway.

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Hi Annisa! Makes perfect sense! You make a great point here and I agree! Everything is exactly what you make it to be! What are you doing for your bachelorette party?

Shower
Sounds like too much work

Shower! We don't need more stuff. I'd rather party with my friends.

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Hi Swtnss238! Congrats on your engagement! That's great! Makes perfect sense and these celebrations are definitely not required, non-essential. Focussing on the reason behind it all -- your marriage to your best friend and soulmate, in the end, is the key.

I would cut the shower for sure!

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Hi FutureMrsV! You said it perfectly! I think I'd rather celebrate, out with my bridal party instead too!

I would cut the shower. I don’t see much need for it. Didn’t do engagement party either...just seemed weird. Will do bachelorette party tho because I love girls night with my besties. But no we are not doing alcoholic night because I’m not a drinker and my friends don’t drink much either. Just gonna do some fun activity together.

Well I didn't want a bridal shower but my MOH wanted to through one. So the day before the shower my moh cancelled my shower because her daughter had a rash and her husband wouldnt watch her. I was pissed to be honest. My shower was going to be at my moms and my mom has a beautiful house and she had everything cooked and goodies done up. So I messaged everyone and said it was back on and they all made other plans then. I am not a drinker or partier so no bacholrette party.

Cut the shower. I'm not having one anyways. As for the bach party we are having a co-ed one. I didn't even care if we had one of those but my FH wanted one.

That's a hard one, cut the Bach Party I suppose.

I’m skipping both but if I had to pick I’d rather have a shower

Shower... I really want to enjoy time with the girls.

I am cutting the shower, I do not see the point in having one. It is more money and more planning, I could use the money and planning to go into the wedding and bachelorette party.

Cut the shower