Hi all - just got married back in October and it was such a wonderful wedding! So many things went right and it was truly the best night of my life.
Only one thing really bothered me though. My best friend of many, many years left right after dinner without ever offering an explanation to me. She also took the other friend in our trio with her (I'm assuming they rode together). I was really hurt by this, but frankly I was too excited about the night and settling into married life to reach out to her about it. About 2 months after the wedding, I texted her regarding my feelings and asked for an explanation. She and her boyfriend (who is also her child's father) had just recently separated a few months before the wedding, and she mentioned that she left early because she couldn't stand to see me so happy when she had just lost her boyfriend. Mind you, she had just attended another friend's wedding as a bridesmaid 1 month before mine in September and was very involved in the entire process. I have been extremely supportive of my friend in many, many aspects of her life, so I just didn't feel that her explanation as to why she left my wedding so early was valid. Frankly, I'm still hurt and I explained that to her but she didn't seem to think it was a big deal that she wasn't there for me on my wedding day. This is kind of the last straw for me since I have always felt that she could never be happy for me in my achievements, and she would always make it a point to express that she had certain things (a new car, a baby, etc.) when I did not. This has shown me her true character and I have decided to distance myself from the friendship and not just hang on to it because she was a childhood friend. I am just the biggest people pleaser though and I have thoughts circling in my head that maybe I should not act so rash, but it feels like the right thing in my heart.
I know you all don't know our friendship like I do, but I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else out there had something happen at their wedding that caused a friendship to end. I am sad, but like I said, it feels right and necessary.
