Writing vows for a snarky introvert

I relate to this more than I can even tell you. Have you considered using the traditional "repeat after me" vows? We're thinking about doing traditional vows during the ceremony and writing our own to read in private, just us and our photographer.

Honestly... I kept my vows simple and did not wax poetic or lay my soul bare. I'm not mocking of judging your word choice at all btw, so many brides find the vows extremely important and meaningful.

I used preferred wording that I felt was elegant and sounded good and that I personally LIKED but I guess I just didn't place the emphasis on vows some people do. If this is an option, I'd consider putting all of the emotion into a letter to your FH (and he could write one to you) that you guys exchange before the ceremony and you can have them framed later.

If you feel this way why not use traditional vows. Pre written?

Otherwise... I’d just say be honest. Get the vows on paper, dont write your life story... just how you feel, what you promise to him... and maybe say that this verbal declaration is hard to say aloud in front of everyone. But that doesn’t make the words any less true.

And then have trusted friend read them and take feedback on any “snark” that can be cut.

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That's a really good idea. I know he really wants to write his own, so maybe I'll let him do what he wants and I'll base mine more on traditional ones and write him a big long letter for just him.

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I love you and I love that idea.

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Xoxoxoxoxoxox

I kinda like the "promises" vows that are cute & funny. Like "I promise to support your dreams--even if you want to be a superhero. I promise not to hide the remote during football season. I promise to..."

Is there anyway you could do standard vows? While you write your heartfelt vows and give it to your partner shortly before the actual wedding ceremony?

I mentioned to my officiant that I was worried I would start crying (I get really emotional at weddings) and wouldn't be able to finish saying them. She said that it happens pretty often that she has to recite people's vows for them. If you really don't feel you can do it, maybe go with standard vows or ask if they have a plan for that kinda of situation.

Do traditional in front of everyone then write your own that you will exchange in a secluded area just the two of you and your photographer. This is what my friend did. I refuse to do my owns vows because I like traditional and we are pretty private people ourselves.

Thanks for all the posts on this. I like the idea of personalizing my ceremony with our own vows, but so much of what we can say that's from the heart is very intimate. I don't feel comfortable broadcasting our pet names for each other to everyone in attendance, even though they are our close friends and family and probably know them anyway.

I like the promise idea, although no one would understand any of our inside jokes. I'll talk to the officiant about it to see how we can fill up time for the ceremony.