Yay or Nay?

Hey!


Was wonder if I could get peoples input on flower girls and ring bearers. My FH and I have someone in mind for a flower girl, but we’re also not 100% sure if we want one or not. For ring bearer, we don’t really have anyone in mind yet for it, but we definitely do know who we will NOT have.
Part of the struggle comes from the fact that my FH has an aunt and Uncle who have 2 little boys and they are not well behaved at all. They are constantly breaking things and bring unnecessary stress. Due to this we for sure would not ask them to be ring bearers. And if we decide on having a flower girl, it’ll be the daughter of some family friends that FH and I are very close to. My concern is that, if we decide on having a flower girl and do not ask his cousins to be ring bearers, his aunt and uncle will throw a fit. They are already very judgemental about everything we do as is it, so I don’t want to give them another reason to criticize us. Though I also don’t want to have to depend on them to actually follow through on the wedding plans because they are notorious for dropping the ball.
So I guess I’m wondering if a flower girl or ring bearer essential together?

Did anyone have one and wish they didn’t? Or didn’t have one and wish they did?