Young brides!

Why do you need the validation of strangers?

I will be 22 and he will be 24 when we get married. And I have no doubts about getting married. I got married at 18 to a guy I thought I loved who turned out to be abusive. He's nothing like that at all.

@Swin. I agree that it might be appropriate IF that were the case but your example is not analogous. OP here did not give any indication that she was scared her young marriage would end in divorce. If someone did post "It's my second marriage, I finally found the one! Is anyone else on their second marriage?" or "We live together now. It's great! Does anyone else live together?" (which are much better analogies), I highly doubt WW regulars would cite statistics as to their likelihood of divorce. I've been here for months and have never once seen it. Though, as I said, I'd be quite amused to see it. And I would be thrilled at the entertaining read if you did that on the next 2nd marriage thread.

When my fiancé and I get married, he'll be 24 and I'll be 23.

I think 20s is fine honestly because it gives you time to start your career and eventually a family. If I waited until I was 30, I'd feel like I need to pop one out right away!

Each person is different, but if you REALLY feel like you're ready, yours is the only opinion that matters.

But OP wrote, "It's the right time for us." And there are statistics that say that isn't accurate. And this is WW. Hot topics exist. Get over it.

Dammit. Why does this always happen? You don't see threads titled, "Early Thirty Brides Unite!", or "Where my second marriage peeps at?!" I don't find the maturity in trying to rally a group of young brides.

ETA:Grammar

FH and I met when we were 14. I'm 20 now and he's 21 (we'll be 21 and 22 when we get married). Both done with schooling and in our career field. Lived together since May of 2016. Everyone's different *shrugs*

Right ! I've been with my FH for 4 years and we are both in our early 20s and my MOH mother keeps saying that we are too young

I got married young, now 4 years later I'm divorced. Why? Because we grew up and apart. And out of love. Now I'm back in the dating for the first time in years, as a divorcee, I thought I had met the one, and now I know I haven't met them yet.

@Beatrice - so you aren't getting married 6/11/17? Or you're engaged again?

Ugh this has been a huge ordeal in my life!!! When we get married I will be 23 and my fiancé will be 20. We will have been together for over 5 years by then. We knew about 6 months in to dating that we were going to get married. When you know you know. Unfortunately his parents have not been supportive. They tried to push me away in the beginning of our relationship because I was older than him and tried to talk him out of proposing because we were 25. To his mom the magical number is 25 and if you get married before then you are basically doomed. As you can tell this subject strikes a cord with me! Lol it all depends on the couple! Some people are ready to get married young and some people aren't mature enough even at 30! Everyone is different. We call ourselves "old souls" because we have always acted older than we are. We are financially ready to buy a home and working on entering great careers. We set a 2 year engagement to ensure we had enough time to set ourselves up for success. No one knows the ins and outs of your relationship and never let anyone tell you what is right for your life.

@Jessica M- I know how you feel! His parents are supportive of us getting married (kinda) but told us that if we had kids before 29 (weird number), it would be a mistake and they wouldn't support it. That would mean we would be married 8 years and be together 14.5 years before our first kid.. just not my timeline haha

@knwilson that was the date for my vow renewal with XH. I stick around due to community request.

@knwilson12 what?! Haha I'd tell them too bad! Lol my body, our marriage, our choice! Haha once you are married you are two adults who make decisions together! You no longer need your parents to tell you what to do!! Lol that is so crazy to me!! Haha they tell us to wait to have kids so we can enjoy life with just the two of us and travel and be financially stable. But even with how overly opinionated my fmil is she has never given us an age for kids!! Lol I sympathize with the craziness that you will have to deal with in the years to come as I face a similar future with my in laws!! Haha

I'm in my early 20s. I don't think it matters much if you truly want to commit to each other. I know people think being under 25 means they're not mature enough and will not be committed. But that bs can happen at any age. So, as long as it's what the couple wants, then so be it!

People don't think someone under 25 is immature. The brain is not fully developed until one is 25. So, it's not really an opinion, it's a biological fact.

We'll both be 22, just graduating from college, I'm teaching kindergarten he's looking into becoming a nuclear physicist. Our age isn't an issue, we're both mature adults and ready for this commitment

I'm 21, FH is 24! We've lived together for two years and are both established in our careers, no one close to us has said anything regarding age. The only thing I ever get is from complete random strangers telling me they can't believe I'm getting married because I look like a baby lol. Age hasn't been a factor for us at all, we're both independent and established in our career.

*facepalm*

Trotting out relatives who got married at 18, 40 years ago is completely not relevant. That was a completely different era, with different challenges and different ways of life. It is lovely when that happens, but it has nothing to do with getting married at 20 right now.

I honestly don't know what the rush is. Enjoy being in your twenties, finding apartments, experimenting with jobs. You can certainly do that without being married.