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Ik people that got married in a court house and r miserable and upset they did

I was not saying anything bad about it i just don't wanna b upset that i made that choice

If he doesn't want to put anything towards kids or marriage it sounds like he doesn't want to get married.

He doesn't want to put anything towards a kid? HIS kid?

Y'all clearly have issues and way different priorities for life. Rethink this whole thing.

@Kasandra Well being that its his money its his choice. Word to the wise. Don't force him. It won't end well.

Thanks @nikki !!!!

Wow Kassandra, you are just digging a hole.

1) I'll be 40 when FH and I get married.

2) I was 35 when I had my son (I know a dinosaur)

3) we're having a City Hall wedding

4) none of our parents are paying for it

Grow up, get an education, buy your own shit, pay for your own wedding, remember that your marriage is what matters, not your wedding.

So what I gather is that you just want a pretty princess day. Neither of you are prepared in any way for marriage. And he doesn't want to get married at all.

Seriously?

I know people that got married and had chocolate cake instead of vanilla and were upset they did.

You are arguing for no damn reason. Stop.

This is such a shit show.

Means all my bills take both my paychecks i make

"Was not saying anything bad" but you called courthouse weddings "pathetic and poor". Uh-huh.

Kassandra, don't lie. You sure as shit did say something bad about it. Saying those that have a wedding at a courthouse looks pathetic and poor is straight up shit talking.

Then you probably shouldn't be getting married. It sounds like you guys can't agree on much of anything. And it doesn't sound like you're financially stable.

If you both have a job, I am baffled as to how you cannot save for a 2019 on your own when it's just barely into 2017.

I am also baffled that you allegedly cannot afford a wedding on your own unless you wait twenty years.

I am baffled that you believe parents should always contribute financially to their child's wedding.

I am baffled that you're (or your husband, or both of you) wanting the type of wedding you can't afford.

I am baffled that you have not once said you're grateful for the $5k you *have* received.

I am baffled that you're persistently trying to marry someone who believes their career to be more important right now.

I am baffled that you want to be married, but appear to be looking for hand-outs.

I am baffled by your entire story from your posts so far because it's hard to understand with the way you type.

I am baffled you think anyone who questions you is rude.

But mostly, I am baffled that you say you're an adult, yet unwilling to make adult decisions, sacrifices, and compromises in order to have the wedding you so desperately want.

On a side note, was it a troll or a goblin that lived under the bridge in "Three Billy Goats Gruff"? I'm suddenly in the mood for troll stories...

Kasandra,

Just so I understand,

You insist on marrying someone who would rather pour into his business than the marriage

You don't have the adequate funds to pay for said wedding

You HAVE to get married because THEY said you have to have kids by 25

Someone is taking both of your paychecks

And people who get married at the courthouse are pathetic and miserable

Just trying to keep up here

Ya well my parents told him that and they keep putting it in my head that hes tge only one that they willk allow me with and to marry

Thanks, but I probably won't keep my opinions to myself.

ETA: Flagged you, by the way.

I doubt people who got married in a courthouse are MISERABLE about it. Geez.

Personally, I'd be miserable to be stuck with a man who didn't want to contribute to a marriage OR children in the future. Now that's real misery.

@Kasandra it sounds like a courthouse wedding would be perfect for you.