Young brides

I agree with OG Kathryn. Premarital counseling sounds like a must in this situation.

Kassandra, I am not saying this to be snarky at all, but adding a few commas to your posts will make them much easier to read

I have a job you dont need to be rude about it!!!

My job takes both my pay checks unfortunately and the hours i work no part time jobs work with it

Personally and its just my opinion, but this does not sound like a healthy start to marriage.

Going to the courthouse sounds like your best bet if you HAVE to be married by 25.

That's what marriage is. A lifetime of compromises! It sounds like you're a little too childish. You're stomping your feet over having to compromise with FH about the wedding. I can't imagine what else you throw a fit about.

Edit: misread probably due to punctuation

Kasandra: that is so offensive. Courthouse weddings can be so gorgeous and special.

Marriage is so effing different from a wedding. This wedding you are wanting help with is a party, your FH has every right to want to spend money on other things. Ultimately, this is between you and him and the fact that you are so concerned with what other people want shows that you have been sidetracked from the actual purpose of the wedding.

Now THAT'S rude Kasandra.

What do you mean "your job takes both of your paychecks"?

There are plenty of beautiful weddings on here that are courthouse elopements.

Your statement is childish, offensive and ignorant.

Get over yourself.

Saying someone with a courthouse wedding looks pathetic and poor is offensive as fuck.

What's pathetic is begging for help from others.

I can't even keep up. That was a terrible thing to say. There are a lot of couples on here that have gotten married at the courthouse and it was fucking beautiful.

Is 28 considered old?? LOL I've read a few of the threads and it seems like maybe I'm too "old" for this forum. I'm getting married April 15, 2017 and would love to hear from some other brides in my age group. Congrats to all of you ladies.

There are plenty of amazing courthouse elopements that are absolutely beautiful and meaningful to the couple. Judging those because they want a small, intimate wedding does not make a good impression.

He majes enough for a wedding anda kid and a business he just doesn't want to put anything towards the kid or marrige

I'm 19!! my FH and I have been together for three years and we own a house and a lot of people tell me I'm to young by why wait if I know I'm gonna be with him forever!!

Malikah, there are so many different age groups on here. I was 31 when I got married. Stay.

Malika- no, most people I see here are between 25-35, though there are quite a few in their 50s plus!

@Malikah you're not old at all. There is a wide age range here.

I'm 23 and my family is supportive as well as his family. I have lived on my own since 18. I pay my own bills & take care of myself, so does FH. I am currently in grad school to obtain a masters. I like to think I am much more mature and responsible than others in my age bracket. Many people are shocked when I disclose my age, just because I do not act nor think like many 23 year olds. Like others have said, if I would married the "boy" I was with at 18 I would be divorced in a hot minute. Either divorced or a single mother (not bashing single mothers). I know who I am without FH, I think that's important when considering marriage. Ill be 24 when FH and I tie the knot and he will be 24, as well.

ETA: I might also add that FH and I are not paying for our whole wedding ourselves, but we are extremely capable. However, the majority of the wedding will be paid by us and the whole could be paid, if need be. No one can say anything to you if you pay for your own wedding. Also, you are NOT entitled to a dime from your parents. You're getting married, not them.