Younger sister too old for Flower girl and too young for Bridesmaid.

Why can she only have 3 bridesmaids?

Why the limit on the amount of BMs?

13 is not too young to be a BM personally if it was my wedding I would include her.

Wedding sides don't have to be even. I think especially in the case of a Jr BM this would be ok with even the most traditional of viewpoints.

My future step daughter is 11 and she will be a Jr BM. I'm having her walk by herself.

I'm curious just like PP's why there can't be another bridesmaid.

Wedding parties don't get "full". There should be room for everyone the bride cares about, regardless of what that number is.

There's no such thing as the wedding party being "full". It can be as big or as small as the bride wants. She can have 30 bridesmaids if she wants. It would look ridiculous and cost her a ton, but if that's what she wanted, she could do that. So add the younger sister as a Jr. BM and call it a day.

My FH's sister is 13 and she wanted to be the ring bearer. So that's what she is now

My sister only wanted three bridesmaids. And her future husband only has three friends/brothers who can be groomsmen. Its just something they decided to do.

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That's the point though the bride only wants three bridesmaids and groomsmen.

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Ok then tell this poor little girl that she can't be in the wedding because her big sister only wants three people. I mean, really? You said "she can only have 3", as if someone was telling her she can't, not "she only wants 3". Those 2 sentences are very different. If she only wants 3, then I don't get the point of this post. What is it that you're looking for? Either she adds your little sister, or she doesn't.

Could she do a reading, pass out programs or be an usher?

I’m pretty sure your 13 year old sister is going to remember that she got left out because symmetry was more important than her being involved.

The only other honor she could possibly give your youngest sister (other than FG, RB, or Jr BM) would be to ask her to do a special reading during the ceremony. I definitely wouldn't give her a job like guest book attendant or passing out programs. Those are surefire ways to make someone feel like they're not that important because those are tasks that obviously don't need an attendant. Guests are capable of noticing and signing a guest book that is sitting on a display table or picking up a program that's displayed on a table by the entrance without anyone telling them to do so or handing them the program.

In my opinion, though, I think your 13 year old sister is going to see that all the other sisters are BMs and are in the BP, and she's going to wonder why she isn't, too, regardless of what other role your sister may give her. If it were me, including all my sisters would be more important to me than having just three BMs, and I'd ask the youngest to be Jr BM and just have uneven sides. Food for thought.

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This is a really rude reply, or at least is coming across as rude. We are NOT telling her she can't be part of the wedding, we just want to figure out a job that is perfect for her. My sister CAN only have three bridesmaids because her FH only HAS three groomsmen. The only other option would be have four bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen but I don't know if she wants it lopsided.

We will defiantly be including her one way or another, I only asked this question for ideas on what would be perfect for her. She is my sister and I only want her to be happy, I spoil her rotten and she isn't a poor little girl, and our oldest sister wants her to be part of the wedding......which is the whole purpose of this question!

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Thank You! I have just texted her and mentioned having uneven sides so our younger sister can be included. I'll have to wait and see what she says....

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She's not getting left out, that was the purpose of this question....to find the perfect job for her!

There isn't an age limit to being a flower girl. We're actually having both of our grandmother's who are in their 60's be our flower girls. They love the idea and I'm sure it'll be a fun moment.

If she isn't a flower girl or Junior Bridesmaid there are other ways to incorporate her. Perhaps as an usher or guest book/gift attendant.

Uneven sides are ok when people are more important than appearances. My H had 5 GMs and I had 3 BMs and it was fine.

The sides do not have to be even at all. I would think giving her a job in place of being in the wedding party would hurt her? I would rather have an uneven party than a hurt kid.