Younger sister too old for Flower girl and too young for Bridesmaid.

We have the opposite problem of too many males--I'm going to have three bridesmaids and one bridesman, and my FH will have four groomsman and a junior groomsman (he's 9, which is just a bit too old for ringbearer). It might look a little unusual, but it's very important for us to include all of our loved ones.

She should be a junior BM. As others have said, sides don't need to be even. A jr. BM walking by herself will be totally fine. It would be cruel to not have her as a BM when all the other sisters are in the wedding party.

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Having her as any part would make her happy....as long as she gets to be included and gets to wear a pretty dress. We aren't to worried about appearances, obviously family comes first. We are leaning towards having her as a Jr bridesmaid it will be lopsided but that way she won't have to dance or worry about having to talk to the groomsmen who we don't know that well yet.

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My brothers church has this same rule on the limit of bridesmaids. Let her just wear a similar dress. She can’t stand with y’all at the church but the reception include her.

My sister will be 12 next year for my wedding & she will be my Jr.bridesmaid and my other sister will be 7 & she will be my flower girl. I couldn't imagine my wedding without them in it,

View Quoted Comment She wants her to be in it but can’t have her standing with the other bridesmaids because it wouldn’t be even… she’s trying to figure out OTHER wedding roles other then bridesmaids and again if she wants them to be something different then she can no need for the snarkyness !

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So symmetry trumps the feelings of your sister?

I think having her as a junior bridesmaid and things being uneven would be better than giving her another role, to be honest. I think the only job you could really offer that would have gravity and seriousness enough for her to feel important is to ask if she could do a reading, but that is still a lesser role than being an attendant involved in all the formal portraits etc.

If it was my (hypothetical) little sister I'd much prefer to have the asymmetry, because I definitely think she will remember she was the only sister not standing up with her siblings or a 'real' part of the bridal party, and that would hurt.