Your fiance's has run a muck just inviting ppl

Go over the wedding list with him and start crossing people off and also let him know that if you have a budget you can just invite the whole community. Let him know you only want the one that are most important to you both, not just associates. I think he will understand.

Sit down and make a list together. Talk about how many people your venue/budget can accommodate, as well as both of your visions for the wedding.

While I don't know for sure, I assume he is wanting a fun and big party, which to him means having a ton of people who like to party. You can help this vision by compromising in other areas (having "party" lighting, music choices, open bar, etc). He may also just be super excited and half-heartedly inviting people and not really meaning it (kind of like the "We should do dinner soon" and then not really following up) Like I said, I don't know but these are some guesses I can make from the info given.

Also, keep in mind no one is truly invited until they get an invite and have a way to RSVP, so don't stress too much!

Some great advice I saw to help with the guest list is figure out how much you’ll be paying per person. Food, booze, invitations, rentals (tables, chairs, linens, flatware, glasses) and florals/centerpieces. Depending how extravagant you’re going this can easily be several hundred dollars+ per person. Now ask yourself if you would be willing to take that person to dinner and pay for their meal for that much, because that’s what you’re doing. If you wouldn’t spend that much to take them to dinner then don’t invite them.

View Quoted Comment Hi ladies thank you I am aware of this and he have discussed on how many ppl that we were inviting because of cost per person he is adding to the bill and head count. Putting them on the list because I have kept things in order.Now having him understand this again we already spent a certain amount because I have been so hard to give us a beautiful day with going to the poor house. Now I have to remind him again of not be just randomly inviting individuals to our wedding. And knowing how much we have spent already and I need to know who these folks are. And we set a cap number already I really dont want no over flow of ppl. If left it up to our fiance ladies we would have the whole town and the other he randomly talks it would be a mess and ladies yall know that I'm right. I am going to talk to him thank you ladies for all the input

View Quoted Comment Hi A.J. We have been done that already also have gone over the guest list 3x before I had ordered our invitations and he had just said this to me yesterday about this. We are in the home stretch of handling some other details. But I need to know who they are and add them maybe that means adding to our bill tab. Which we are little bit unbudget and I dont want to put us over

View Quoted Comment Hi LaDale that is my point exactly so when I do speak with I was going to do just that. We did not want to go in the 70's or 80's range of ppl

Tell him that for every additional person he invites he has to hand you $150. That should stop him.

View Quoted Comment Lol lol yes that should 🤣🤣🤣 thank you

Ask him and yourself, would you pay for dinner for these people? Because that is what a reception boils down to. If the answer is no then cut them from the list.

View Quoted Comment Yes when he gets home we are going to have an discussion because we had a cap number and I also know you can go over if you are willing to pay the extra charge. Know the amount of because I will definitely make him pay for them but if I dont like them they are off the list