Zola or Myregistry?

Don't use a honeyfund - Just have a small registry or don;t register at all. People will get the hint and give you cash or checks in a card if they are so inclined. Also that way you get the full amount and don't have to worry about any kind of fee's taking off what guests would like to gift you

Problem solved.

Yeah just skip it. Have a small registry at a store and people will give cash. Some people on this forum have had issues with Zola shipping physical items so I would just avoid that altogether.

Skip both. Registering for money is rude.

We set up a honey fund in addition to a small store registry for those family members who prefer a traditional registry. I completely disagree with other commentator's, a registry is just a suggestion list for those that want to get you a gift that they know you'll want and appreciate, if you prefer a honey fund or help with your home or whatever than do that. Its not rude unless you ask for it from your guests directly in an obnoxious way, just include the links on your website that way unless they're looking for gift info it wont be in anyone's face. Everyone knows the wedding drill, when guests go to a wedding most will want to give you a gift, if a registry isn't rude then neither is a honeyfund. Do what works best for you! And don't feel obligated to register for stuff you don't want.

Registries are established to help establish a home. That means physical items, not cash. Don't register or have a small registry for upgrades (nice sheets and towels, etc.) and people who want to give will give cash/checks. Some won't give anything and that's fine too. Personally, anyone who registers for cash and sends me an invite gets a toaster - a cheap toaster.

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It's generally common knowledge here that honeymoon funds are against all etiquette.

Using these sites that charge a percentage of a cash gift make no sense to me.. what’s wrong with no registry and accepting a check? People get the hint if there’s no registry.

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Agreed. Modern registries allow for the gifting of experiences, in addition to household items that people may or may not even need at this point. We've been to several weddings recently where couples were registered on Zola (we've decided to use Zola as well) and nearly all of them had honeymoon experiences listed on there. Dinners at famous restaurants, shore excursions, hot air balloon rides, etc. There was nothing offensive about any of it - if you don't want to gift someone an experience, then don't. If you don't want to buy someone a household item from their registry, then don't. Registries in and of themselves are just suggestions. If someone is going to just give cash, they'll do that regardless of what's on your registry.

I am using Zola as well. I have figured out the whole gifting thing so that they will have to buy the item through company I want the item through. Besides that, I believe having a honeyfund should be set for people who are already situated together. I went to a wedding where the couple were living together for 15 years before getting married and they even said they had enough mixers and bowls. I totally agreed! so we gave them money toward the fund. As long as you are not tacky about it and are direct with where the money will go (also like the idea of excursions and specific dinning or exploring trips) then why not. It really depends on the couple and what you both prefer.

Thank you ladies for your feedback! I was wondering why I hadn't heard from anyone, Im trying to figure out this wedding wire site...how come I didn't get any alerts when someone comments? Do I find it in my settings? all this wedding stuff is hard!

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Yeah i like the way you think! Me and my guy have been together forevers, so we dont need anything to fill our apartment- we just need funds to help us for our first home!

View Quoted Comment Again - skip registering all together. Anyone who feels inclined will just give a cash or check and you will receive the full amount rather then having a percentage taken out by a site that doesn’t even do anything except take your money.

Also so while I doubt you truly couldn’t use any new items or upgrades - I just want to remind everyone while most people expect to give a gift. It’s not REQUIRED at all, ever. So if you 100% don’t want to register just skip it. And those who feel inclined to give with either just buy a gift (which will happen no matter what you do. Or give cash.

Also so if you choose a honeyfund or no registers you have to skip a shower. That IS a gift giving event and no one wants to host a party to watch you open cards with money.